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Thread started 05/20/16 10:15am

SheLovesMeNot

where were you and how'd you find out? How are you coping?

Where were you when you got the tragic news and what were you doing, and how are you coping?

I was vacationing at a resort, near the pool when I got a text from a family member that there'd been a death at Paisley Park. I thought it may have been a family member of the Nelson family or a band member. I went upstairs to turn on the news when I got a call from a mutual friend telling me it was Prince, and that he was no longer with us. I was in disbelief, still am. How am I coping? I'm silently grieving. My heart is broke. I liked Prince, I liked most of his music. I'm his age, his height, and I've probably been through as many men as he has woman, I was not his type but I know he knew that I liked him...like, really liked him. I'm going to miss him so much!
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Reply #1 posted 05/20/16 10:39am

AnnaStesia91

I was at work. Minding my business then my phone starts going crazy. I get all these texts about the medics being at PP THEN I get a message from a friend "Don't freak out but..."

Yea so basically I had a panic attack. Called my mother she freaked out. It was bad. Real bad. It still feels like a nightmare.

I'm trying to cope. Getting my prince tattoo this weekend and praying that will give it some finality for me. I listen to his music all day, every day. None of it gets old.

Not depressed just sad. It doesn't help my friend died about two weeks afterwards like 24hrs after he left my house. Hard month it's been.
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Reply #2 posted 05/20/16 10:41am

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I was just sitting here, at home, working. I don't turn the TV on during the day, nor do I have a radio going. I might have music playing. I just like the peacefulness of the day, so i can get work done.

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A friend that I've known since 1st grade, called me and said "Have you seen the news? There's been a death at Paisley Park." My first thought was actually "Oh dear, a staffer died at Paisley Park? How grim!" By the time I got the news on, my Facebook messenger, and Skype were lighting up. I work contact said "Prince is dead - TMZ is reporting". She swears by TMZ, and rightly so.

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I couldn't click on the link. It was too much. I always go to GoogleNews to see if someone is trending or not. Sure enough, the headlines were coming in. CNN was reporting he was gone. I eventually hung up the phone, and just watched the news. It was a bit like when we all got the news of 9/11. It was so shocking, and sudden, that all I could do was watch the news to try and understand it, and absorb it.

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I came here eventually, to read from folks. I cried a lot, and was able to snap a pic in that moment. I needed to dosomething to memorialize the moment more. I was flipping through my vinyl, and grabbed Prince and Purple Rain, held them in my arms, and took one picture.

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I got so many emails from people - folks I'd not talked to in 20+ years, people from high school, etc., and they all said "you were the first person I thought of. I'm so sorry. You talked about Prince every other day in school, and I always remembered how much his music meant to you." It's weird to see yourself through someone else's eyes like that, and how they perceived you.

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It was also the same day my mother had passed away 4 years ago, so it was a pretty heavy day. I think I've said this before- but my mother hated Prince, with a passion. I joked with my brother later that day, and said, "Imagine the look on mom's face when Prince showed up this morning." He said, "I thought the same thing." It was the one chuckle I had all day.

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Reply #3 posted 05/20/16 10:42am

JudasSmile

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I was at home and went onto Twitter. I noticed that Prince was trending and wondered why that was (perhaps a big announcement); I clicked and read the news.

I cried. A lot. Have stopped crying, but still feel sad at times.

U been bamboozled, hoodwinked, took.
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Reply #4 posted 05/20/16 10:49am

Guitarhero

Was at home just got back from night shift work. My sister phoned me and told me, i looked at the news on TV. On top of everything have a family member very ill and with Prince's death just made 2016 the worst year of my life. Am just tired and my sleeping pattern is a mess. I hope others here are coping better. hug

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Reply #5 posted 05/20/16 10:55am

AnnaStesia91

TrivialPursuit said:

I was just sitting here, at home, working. I don't turn the TV on during the day, nor do I have a radio going. I might have music playing. I just like the peacefulness of the day, so i can get work done.


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A friend that I've known since 1st grade, called me and said "Have you seen the news? There's been a death at Paisley Park." My first thought was actually "Oh dear, a staffer died at Paisley Park? How grim!" By the time I got the news on, my Facebook messenger, and Skype were lighting up. I work contact said "Prince is dead - TMZ is reporting". She swears by TMZ, and rightly so.


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I couldn't click on the link. It was too much. I always go to GoogleNews to see if someone is trending or not. Sure enough, the headlines were coming in. CNN was reporting he was gone. I eventually hung up the phone, and just watched the news. It was a bit like when we all got the news of 9/11. It was so shocking, and sudden, that all I could do was watch the news to try and understand it, and absorb it.


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I came here eventually, to read from folks. I cried a lot, and was able to snap a pic in that moment. I needed to dosomething to memorialize the moment more. I was flipping through my vinyl, and grabbed Prince and Purple Rain, held them in my arms, and took one picture.


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I got so many emails from people - folks I'd not talked to in 20+ years, people from high school, etc., and they all said "you were the first person I thought of. I'm so sorry. You talked about Prince every other day in school, and I always remembered how much his music meant to you." It's weird to see yourself through someone else's eyes like that, and how they perceived you.


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It was also the same day my mother had passed away 4 years ago, so it was a pretty heavy day. I think I've said this before- but my mother hated Prince, with a passion. I joked with my brother later that day, and said, "Imagine the look on mom's face when Prince showed up this morning." He said, "I thought the same thing." It was the one chuckle I had all day.





This. I had sooooo many people I haven't talked to in years sending me condolences. But it made me also feel good that my love for him really showed and made a lasting impression.
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Reply #6 posted 05/20/16 10:57am

alandail

I was on vacation in Hawaii, woke up to my son calling my wife. I am half asleed and hear him say to her "how's dad doing?" and I think I hear him say "Prince died". I don't believe it until my wife repeats it. I had been concerned since the emergency landing the week before, the news of that is how I woke up the first day in Hawaii.

we put off our plans for the next two days then I have to push through it because the vacation time is running out. My wife said "you act like you lost a family member". I told her "that's what it feels like". 'm still not sure I've processed it yet. I was born 5 years after Prince and really never thought I'd ever get the news that he died because I expected him to live at least 5 years longer than me.

When I read that the emergency landing was because of an overdose, it hit me so hard I just had to stop everything for a few minutes to process that before I could even finish reading the story.

The whole thing is just so tragic and so preventable. There is no reason that he should die a week after an overdose. Why does it take so long to attempt to get him some real help. Why is the person they finally get to help him arriving hours too late.

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Reply #7 posted 05/20/16 12:15pm

joelmarable

I was in the classroom teaching when another teacher came over to tell me near the end of the day. i was totally shocked the rest of the day. taught very little just handed out assignments.

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Reply #8 posted 05/20/16 12:18pm

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At home on short-term disability, where I've been this entire time. A friend texted and said, "I heard Prince has died. Is it true?" I started to text back "no, he just had to land his plane last week because of a medical issue", when a voice in my head said check the Org.

And the Org wouldn't load...

PRINCE: the only man who could wear high heels and makeup and STILL steal your woman!
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Reply #9 posted 05/20/16 12:21pm

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in the car. lucky i didn't crash.

not the same since. will never be the same. glad that i will never be the same.
"If u love somebody, your life won't be in vain
And there's always a rainbow, at the end of every rain."--peace and love, dear prince.....
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Reply #10 posted 05/20/16 12:33pm

PeteSilas

I'm about five feet from where I was when I found out, how I'm coping? not much better. I saw it on my facebook trend in this here coffee shop. I was so shocked at first that i didn't really feel anything and I had work scheduled so i didn't have time to sit around and thing more about it. I almost cancelled the day but I just sort of halfheartedly when and did a job. Since then? hearing lets go crazy, purple rain in stores i have mixed feelings. I don't want to think about his passing in public because i feel like to most people he is just another celeb to pass and celebrate and many of them just weren't fans and aren't particularly sad so I'd rather listen to his music in private for the time being.

Prince.org: With fans like these he didn't need haters.
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Reply #11 posted 05/20/16 12:34pm

IRISHFAN

I was on my way to Portugal for a few days for my birthday weekend. Turned on my phone as we waited to get off the plane in Portugal, and the text messages started to fly in. I was in disbelief and felt sick to my stomach. Was with my partner who doesn't really understand and all I wanted to do with get straight back on the plane to be at home with friends so we could try get our heads around it and mourn together. My best friend called me in tears, trying to figure out if we could get to Minneapolis to be with other grieving fans, but realistically we couldn't make it . I can't recall the last time I felt this sad. I was 13 when I became a fan, 32 years ago! Felt part of my youth died too - very sad few weeks and I still can't believe we'll never get to see him live again. The excitment and enjoyment I got from a Prince concert - nothing will ever come remotely close to that experience and feeling. Also saddened to think of him dying alone. I hope it happened quickly and he wasn't in pain
As some people have said 'sure you didn't know him!' - and I know that! I'm not crazy but when somebody has been part of your life through their music for such a long time, its natural to feel loss and sadness. Life goes on, we have the music, the videos and the memories, but life's a bit duller now Prince has left us.
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Reply #12 posted 05/20/16 12:34pm

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I was walking down the hall at work around 2:00PM, heading for the kitchen on our floor to fill my water cup, and we have TVs in all of our kitchens.

I saw Prince on the TV talking to Larry King, and I thought at first glance, why is Prince on TV, and why are they showing an old interview?

Then I saw at the bottom of the screen, "Prince, dead, age 57"

All I kept saying was "What?", "What"? OMG, it can't be. No"

I am still very heartbroken and so sad about losing him. He was so exciting to watch. I know recently I read, he said he couldn't play the guitar anymore thus the reason for the piano and microphone tour. I hope this did not depress him in addition to Vanity passing on.

All I know is I've been playing the videos every night and just shaking my head that this irreplaceable man is gone.

An end to an era, that's for sure.

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Reply #13 posted 05/20/16 1:09pm

AnnaStesia91

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Reply #14 posted 05/20/16 1:21pm

kittycat108

I was at home on the sofa with my daughter next to me, she looked up from her phone and said Prince is dead. I didn't believe her, didn't want to believe her but eventually I got online myself and checked. Once confirmed I took myself off to the bathroom, put on Lovesexy and stood under the shower and sobbed for the longest time. Yesterday was the first day I haven't cried but the tears are back today. It keeps hitting me like a truck, I still can't believe he's no longer on this earth. Don't think I will ever get over this

Thank u 4 a funky time
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Reply #15 posted 05/20/16 1:34pm

SexFiendNikki

I was at work. My boyfriend called and told me. I thought he was joking...then EVERYONE and their Moma started calling to check on me. Everyone knows what a FANATIC I am. It was if someone in my family died and everyone wanted to see how I was holding up.

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Reply #16 posted 05/20/16 1:52pm

yasetshego

@ work. Went in the bathroom and cried. I am not over it. There is still so much of his music I never heard. Have not been to PP. I feel like i missed out on the good stuff.

"Ain' nobody BAAAAAAAD like Meeeee!" c. Morris Day
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Reply #17 posted 05/20/16 2:04pm

Mindbells9

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I was at work. I had a little free time, so I checked the .org and I saw the thread about there being paramedics at Paisley Park. I was reading the comments and I saw a comment that there had been a confirmed death at Paisley. I figured "maybe it was a staff member or even a crazed fan who hopped the fence and got hurt". Despite hearing a week before about the emergency plane landing, I didn't want to believe it was Prince...

....and then my dad called me. My dad NEVER calls me. We have a great relationship but he's the type that if you expect to hear from him, you have to be the one to reach out. When I saw his name on my phone, I dropped my head. I just knew Prince was dead. He confirmed my fears when I answered the phone. Then, my phone started blowing up! My facebook timeline and my messages all said the same thing: "You were the first person I thought about when I heard the news..."

I'm still in shock and disbelief, but I'm doing a little better now. But I always get sad when I see "June 7, 1958- April 21, 2016". The finality of it just breaks my heart...

[Edited 5/20/16 14:07pm]

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Reply #18 posted 05/20/16 2:34pm

PurpleMusic07

At work, on my lunch break, in line gettting food. Was on the phone with my mother and she broke it to me. Had to have her repeat herself, I couldnt believe it. Ruined my day. I still dont believe it some days.
"Where you are now is in a place that does not require time." - Rest In Power, PRINCE
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Reply #19 posted 05/20/16 2:34pm

Resolution

I was in Paris on business. Came out of the shower soaking wet and heard text come through, my brother to say some bad news on Prince. turned on TV and could not believe it. sat on bed for 4 hours watching TV and trying to process everything. My phone was hopping with friends and family calling me... I would text them back saying 'in a late meeting, yes I heard about Prince, I am doing OK'. Reality is that I could not even speak, in total shock and pain. 5 hours later, walked to eiffel tower, sat there and cried for ages.

Was so sad to hear Prince was alone at PP when it happened .. missing you Prince, not even a month has passed and it feels like a million days. Rest Well !!


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Reply #20 posted 05/20/16 3:18pm

dopedog

At work. Got a text from a friend, and also my wife, saying that Prince had died.
Kept it together for about an hour then when i was on my own i bawled my eyes out. Got home at half 12 in the morning, put on bbc news, hoping that it was all some horrible hoax. But it obviously wasn't. For 30 years he felt like family, he was the person i went to when i was sad, the person i went to when i was happy. I would just sit in my bedroom, and watch video's, listen to cd's, felt like he was singing to me, helping me get through this thing called life.
I'm still in denial a bit i think, i read the free uk paper 'The Metro', and when i get to the entertainment pages i automatically look for a Prince article, to see if he has announced a tour, or a new album, then i remember...am i the only one doing that?
This sucks. I honestly look around now and think the colour of the world has vanished...
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Reply #21 posted 05/20/16 5:00pm

AnonymousFan

A regurgitation of what I said on Reddit a few days after:

I sat down for lunch, checked my inbox on Facebook and everybody who knew I was a Prince fan was like "sorry for your loss" and my heart sank; who did I lose? Then I looked at my Newsfeed and everyone was talking about how Prince "died", I thought it was some elaborate joke. Then I checked twitter and Prince was trending and everyone was saying "rest in peace." I kept blinking, trying to wake up - trying to make it go away and not be real. I took a moment to look slowly across the dining hall (which was almost empty because I went at 2:30) to see if I was actually living in reality. That was when I knew.

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I had barely eaten anything I'd gotten and I hadn't eaten all day, but the news made me nauseous and I threw out everything I'd just put on my plate and left. For 3 days I didn't eat but 2 chips and a cookie that I forced myself to have on the second night. At the end of the third, I walked, utterly broken, to the dining hall and consoled myself with stew. At the time, I thought I would never be able to regain my normal eating patterns again because of the "sad nausea" I kept getting.

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Back to the day of: I walked straight over to my college radio station to arrange some plans - still in shock, still trying to hold back the tears.
I host a Prince based radio show called "Purple Wave" every Tuesday, so everyone at the station knew I'm a huge fan. I asked the guys in charge if I could air that night. We had a short conversation speculating about his... entrance into the dawn and I couldn't say a word without my voice cracking and my eyes wilting. To end my poorly concealed suffering, they ended up saying I could host an hour long tribute show to Prince that night and the next morning and they'd be playing hour long Prince blocks throughout the next week. So, that was my little way of making sure he lived on for a little while on my level.

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The weeks after:

I was having a rough time getting through the first week; After the pickup days (Friday, Saturday, and Sunday), I was able to kind of mimic happy things and laugh and joke, but there was the emptiness and I would be sad within myself all the time, yet I somehow managed to get through the last week of classes. Second week; I thought I was on the road to being back to normal and then I felt these few second long pangs of either happiness or extreme sadness every once in a while. It felt like I was glitching out of the world or something for a few seconds at a time because my entire emotional state would just flip out of nowhere like that. Recently, the "pangs" have stopped, but I've been getting progressively more depressed since the second week and stuff is starting to feel really blah and I'm starting to see the rest of the world for the disgusting piece of mundaneness and mediocrity it has become. In a phrase; I've become "really frustrated about life."
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Reply #22 posted 05/20/16 5:15pm

Adore27

We were on vacation when I heard the awful news. My family was very kind and we even watched Purple Rain together before we flew home.

The kicker is that he passed on my beautiful daughter's birthday. So, I'll never, ever forget the day.

I'm still hurting...even 4 weeks later. sad sad sad

(On a strange note, the last time we went on a big vacation, Michael Jackson passed away. That was rough...but Prince is and always will be my #1.)

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Reply #23 posted 05/20/16 6:23pm

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I was in my bed fast asleep my mum came in & woke me up at 5:30am & Said Amber Prince is dead so i turned on sky news in the lounge room turns out it was real i was absolutely gutted to say the least iv cried so much since it happened iv had it super tough since but im trying my best to cope sad

All of this and more is 4 u. With <3, sincerity and deepest care, my life with u eye share ~Prince~
Life is time time is space and space is what Eye need ~Awesome A.V~
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Reply #24 posted 05/20/16 6:29pm

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So you just finish work and your phone is ringing and you look see the number and it's your brother calling and you look at the skype message your boss has just sent:

"Have you seen the news? Prince, man. Fucking Prince"

In those simple nine words I knew why my brother was on the phone, and in the span of two simple gestures there was the newspaper on the screen and my brother's voice.

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Reply #25 posted 05/20/16 8:04pm

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April 21, 2016 @ 3:22 pm

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Driving home from work, turning the radio dial and hearing a radio DJ say....at least this is what i thought i heard ''the prince is dead'' i was like wooooah PRINCE CHARLES DIED????? OH MY GOD!

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Then a female DJ started talking a mile a minute about what an amazing person, humanitarian and genius PERFORMER he was and then she said it,''Yes, Prince Rogers Nelson, dead at 57!!!!'' And thats when i almost drove my car into on coming traffic, i literally almost died!!! And then a wave of disbelief and depression came over me..still haven't shaken it completely!

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Couldn't believe it then..still can't sad

''The beautiful ones they hurt you every tiiiiime....''

yes RIP BEAUTIFUL ONES: Prince & Denise 2016
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Reply #26 posted 05/20/16 9:48pm

alandail

musicfan77 said:

sad

I was walking down the hall at work around 2:00PM, heading for the kitchen on our floor to fill my water cup, and we have TVs in all of our kitchens.

I saw Prince on the TV talking to Larry King, and I thought at first glance, why is Prince on TV, and why are they showing an old interview?

Then I saw at the bottom of the screen, "Prince, dead, age 57"

All I kept saying was "What?", "What"? OMG, it can't be. No"

I am still very heartbroken and so sad about losing him. He was so exciting to watch. I know recently I read, he said he couldn't play the guitar anymore thus the reason for the piano and microphone tour. I hope this did not depress him in addition to Vanity passing on.

All I know is I've been playing the videos every night and just shaking my head that this irreplaceable man is gone.

An end to an era, that's for sure.

That's not true. He did a couple of performances in March, played guitar for a Ray Charles tribute and had an aftershow another night in March where he even played the drums.

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Reply #27 posted 05/20/16 10:21pm

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I was watching a dumbass movie that kept getting interrupted by text messages beeping. Annoying. That movie was hella confusing and I still don't get it. I finally finished Under the Skin though. I'm not sure about the ending because I actually checked my phone towards the end. It was my high-school best fried I haven't texted in 3 years. Never a good sign.

And I'm not coping because it's Bullshit. I feel like I have to die next before I lose anyone else. I tell people, I go first, not you. When my husband died, Prince helped me thru it. Im just unable to lose anymore people. No. Unwilling. Unwilling is the word.

I just bought 14 rare breed chicks and 3 blue swedish ducklings. So...that's what I'm doing rn.
Trufax: My daddy told me the he and mom went to Purple Rain in a Seattle Theater. They were so moved by the movie that they went into the record store and bought the album immediately. They went home and conceived me.
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Reply #28 posted 05/20/16 10:29pm

Chasing

On the train iPod the way home from work, my best Prince mate text me, just said "bro, what the fuck, Prince died" - then I started getting calls, texts, I was just 10 mins from the door of my house. I raced home, my family had the news on watching the reports roll in. I asked them to turn the news off, and I just stood in the lounge put When Doves Cry on, very loud, we all listened in complete silence and we all had tears. Next few days were seriously tough, I have listened to a lot of Prince's music since, almost exclusively, I have felt low ever since, and actually think I am still grieving.
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Reply #29 posted 05/21/16 3:33am

SheLovesMeNot

I'd like to extend my condolences to you, the fans. I feel your pain, I feel your loss. I wish he'd known just how much we truly loved and cared for him and the impact he had on our lives. Music is a gift, beautiful for the spirit and soul. His contribution to music, he was very much appreciated in so many different ways he touched us.
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