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JudasLChrist

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All Orgers should read: Really helpful post from Mira Jacob about grieving Prince's death...



This is one the most clear eyed, and beautiful things I've read about the real-grief people are are feeling over Prince's death. All orgers should read.

From a facebook post by w...Mira Jacob:

I’ve been noticing a funny phenomenon of some of my friends being embarrassed by the intensity of their grief over Prince. I didn’t know him, they say. It’s not like we were friends. I’m sorry I’m so emotional. They act like they’ve co-opted their sadness, like they’re squatting in a feeling that isn’t theirs to inhabit. Which, I just want to say, as lovingly as possible, is total bullshit. Of course you knew him. Of course you are shattered. That’s the whole deal with art—it doesn’t give a shit about the boundaries of flesh. You never held Prince? So what. The way he spoke to you, the way he shaped you and transformed you into someone you couldn’t have imagined is just as real and vital as any relationship you will ever have. I mean listen, if we as a people need to apologize for something, I will gladly nominate global warming, or the Kardashians, or fat-free cream cheese. But loving and grieving a man we never touched? That is us at our very, very best. No apology necessary.

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Reply #1 posted 05/01/16 9:11pm

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No More Haters on the Internet.
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Reply #2 posted 05/01/16 9:18pm

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But loving and grieving a man we never touched? That is us at our very, very best. No apology necessary.

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Reply #3 posted 05/01/16 9:30pm

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if this was to give me permission to cry , it worked wonders

** do something,before we're gone , and we're just a rock where a world went wrong...**
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Reply #4 posted 05/01/16 9:31pm

morningsong

Perfect.
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Reply #5 posted 05/01/16 9:50pm

kathyanner

So grateful for your beautiful words. Thank you. love

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Reply #6 posted 05/01/16 10:02pm

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Thank U! I have felt weird that I am feeling so badly about his death, and have nobody to share my grief with. I think it would be silly, since he was "just a celebrity." So much more to me for the past 35 years, a part of my life everyday, and he still will be. Every song sounds different now, and will forever. I just still can't believe it.

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Reply #7 posted 05/01/16 11:45pm

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Reply #8 posted 05/01/16 11:55pm

Iluvmusic78

Beautifully said!!
Most people don't fully understand how hard I have taken the passing of Prince. (For all the reasons mentioned).
Oddly, the only one who gets it is my God Mother. Who was not a fan of his until his death as she looked deeper than the sexuality.
We knew him. In a pure way. Beyond human inconsistencies, and conditions. We got the best of him.
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Reply #9 posted 05/02/16 12:06am

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JudasLChrist said:



This is one the most clear eyed, and beautiful things I've read about the real-grief people are are feeling over Prince's death. All orgers should read.

From a facebook post by w...Mira Jacob:

I’ve been noticing a funny phenomenon of some of my friends being embarrassed by the intensity of their grief over Prince. I didn’t know him, they say. It’s not like we were friends. I’m sorry I’m so emotional. They act like they’ve co-opted their sadness, like they’re squatting in a feeling that isn’t theirs to inhabit. Which, I just want to say, as lovingly as possible, is total bullshit. Of course you knew him. Of course you are shattered. That’s the whole deal with art—it doesn’t give a shit about the boundaries of flesh. You never held Prince? So what. The way he spoke to you, the way he shaped you and transformed you into someone you couldn’t have imagined is just as real and vital as any relationship you will ever have. I mean listen, if we as a people need to apologize for something, I will gladly nominate global warming, or the Kardashians, or fat-free cream cheese. But loving and grieving a man we never touched? That is us at our very, very best. No apology necessary.

So true, I am struggling with feeling guilty over my grief & so embarressed

Thank you Prince for every note you left behind 💜
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Reply #10 posted 05/02/16 3:38am

BillieBalloon

ETHERSPIN said:

if this was to give me permission to cry , it worked wonders



Yes
Baby, you're a star.

Meet me in another world, space and joy
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Reply #11 posted 05/02/16 3:49am

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JudasLChrist said:



This is one the most clear eyed, and beautiful things I've read about the real-grief people are are feeling over Prince's death. All orgers should read.

From a facebook post by w...Mira Jacob:


I’ve been noticing a funny phenomenon of some of my friends being embarrassed by the intensity of their grief over Prince. I didn’t know him, they say. It’s not like we were friends. I’m sorry I’m so emotional. They act like they’ve co-opted their sadness, like they’re squatting in a feeling that isn’t theirs to inhabit. Which, I just want to say, as lovingly as possible, is total bullshit. Of course you knew him. Of course you are shattered. That’s the whole deal with art—it doesn’t give a shit about the boundaries of flesh. You never held Prince? So what. The way he spoke to you, the way he shaped you and transformed you into someone you couldn’t have imagined is just as real and vital as any relationship you will ever have. I mean listen, if we as a people need to apologize for something, I will gladly nominate global warming, or the Kardashians, or fat-free cream cheese. But loving and grieving a man we never touched? That is us at our very, very best. No apology necessary.




I felt embarrassed because I grieved like I'd lost a brother and felt silly because I'd never met the man but you are so very right. Prince has been with me at every step of my life. The good decisions, the bad, the great times and the rough ones, the birth of my beautiful children who listened to his music while still in their mums belly. I love your comments!

Thank you for your empowering words. I've just signed my plus sign today!
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Reply #12 posted 05/02/16 4:00am

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sad rose bawl

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Reply #13 posted 05/02/16 4:39am

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A COMPREHENSIVE PRINCE DISCOGRAPHY (work in progress ^^): https://sites.google.com/...iscog/home
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